Human beings are social animals and to live in the society it is necessary to conform to the rules and regulations as defined since centuries. But sometimes, one has to deviate from the orthodox set of rules so as to concentrate on one’s family and children.
This is very much true for the parents of school going children and children themselves since they are subjected to the ever-prying eyes of the people around and the society, thus resulting in the proverbial societal pressure.
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When parents are questioned
This is one of the most awkward and embarrassing situations. Right from the neighbours, relatives, friends, colleagues at work place, in fact, everyone who knows the parents has a few selected questions for them. Like, how did your son do in the exams? What is the percentage, rank, division etc.? Why did he score so low? Didn’t you arrange for tutors, extra classes? We could have referred you to the best coaching institute if you would have asked, and so on.
This is really frustrating for parents since they are made to feel as if they have not taken the studies of their child seriously or compromised on the quality of coaching. Poor fellows are even told that their child might not make it to the next level with the marks scored. This fills them with a sense of insecurity thus leading to tension at home.
Here, the parents must realise that the most important thing in their life is their child. Hence, they must focus all their attention on him and do whatever they can to make sure that he does well according to his merit and potentials.
When the child is compared
This part has been discussed numerous times and been covered on television programmes, in newspapers and magazines, and of late on online platforms as well.
People just want the child to be like the other child, in fact even better. Be it the neighbours, family, friends, co-worker, or one’s own brother or sister. This comparison is not only unreasonable but very dangerous for the overall health and growth of the child. These demands and expectations will lead to disastrous consequences.
Parents should remember that every child is unique and different from the other. Each one has their own set of exclusive talents and capacities and that is how the approach should be. Identify the strengths and weaknesses and nurture the child accordingly.
Burden on parents
When people from all quarters bombard the parents with queries related to the child’s performance in the exams and the result, the poor fellows are mostly left with no choice but to use any mean to get their child perform extraordinarily well in the next exams and come out with flying colours.
They tend to use different tactics, like coaxing, using strict measures to rein in the child, or even worse ignore the child. As a result, the child is very much likely to feel alone, insecure, and depressed, losing interest in studies and school completely.
Parents have to come to terms with the fact that society will always demand but it is not their duty to oblige. They have to assure the child that no matter what, they will always be there for him and provide all the love and support.
What will people say? This question mostly hurled at the students and parents by family, friends, neighbours, and much surprisingly by themselves, is counted as one of the biggest killers of their self-belief, self-confidence, and self-esteem.
Parents and students must believe in themselves. They have to understand that people will say a lot many things, give many opinions, feedback, suggestions, pass judgments and so on, but it is they who know their capacity and calibre the best and that is how they ought to perform and not to the satisfaction of the society.
Conclusion: This societal pressure causes immense stress to the students and their parents as well. Here, it is strongly advised that you completely ignore these negative and off-putting observations from the society and concentrate on your life and ways to make it better, both at academic and personal levels.