People-pleasers are always the eye candy of managers and colleagues. They come to rescue for everyone when in need. Everyone trusts them and keep them as back-up option because they never say no, and hence they get the title of being the “YES MAN” in office. It cannot be denied that there are multiple benefits of being people-pleaser. Colleagues love you for your generosity and humility. But on the contrary, your work-life-balance will get amiss. You will juggle to manage personal and professional commitments.
Being a ‘yes man’ is not an easy job! It requires patience and wit to balance personal and professional life. Here are the pros and cons that every people-pleaser faces at the workplace. Read on to find out:
1. Demonstrate your readiness to help
Having a friend who is always ready to help you is a wonderful feeling. Especially if that friend is your workplace buddy! You will always stay out of trouble and will have your name in the good books of your manager. But ask about the plight of that friend. He/she might be having other friends at workplace who are purely in touch just because they know there is a people pleaser who will never backfire their expectations. A people pleaser is adored by all, be it your manager or your co-workers. Everyone will always keep you in high regard for your benevolence.
2. Portrays you as a reliable resource
A yes man is never expected to say a NO. Whether it is early morning meeting or a late night party, you are always expected to turn up on time and stay late. Hence, company sees you as a valuable and reliable resource to bank upon. You are always the first one to be approached for a new project. Colleagues and management will expect you to volunteer for tasks in which others are not interested. Just because you have demonstrated your full potential, so the company also takes pride in rewarding and appreciating you to set an example for others.
3. Offers opportunity to explore new ideas and tasks
People-pleasers often get to experience new things every now and then. They are the ones who willingly or unwillingly get a chance to interact with new faces in the organisations. You will never experience boredom in your profile because your plate is always overloaded with new dishes each day.
People pleasers are often love by others, but its indeed a difficult job. They suffer the most because they want to keep up with their image. So let us take a look at the cons of being a ‘yes man’:
4. Lose time helping others
You will fall short of time to complete tasks of your KRA. Other will pack your schedule with their tasks and responsibilities that at times you will be questioned about your efficiency to complete your work within deadline. Time will fly for you and the hands of clock will appear running at a pace of light year. So make sure that you offer only that much help that you can manage within official hours of the job.
5. Bear burden of unrealistic Expectations
Saying a NO will become a tough call for you! The day you deny someone any help, they will create a negative image of yours. Because you are expected to accept every challenge that comes your way, you will find many people who will have unrealistic expectations that are beyond your capability. This creates a misunderstanding that is hard to overcome.
6. Work-life balance is interrupted
It cannot be denied that you will struggle to strike a balance between personal and professional life. You will be expected to give presentation and submit report of other project on the same day; where on personal front you might be expected to attend a family gathering! During such demanding days, you will regret being the yes man to all.
Intelligent tip for you
Limit your generosity and prevent building an image of ‘always-ready-to-help-everybody-anytime’. There are other ways to make your colleagues respect you and your opinions. Understand that being yes man doesn’t mean saying "yes" to everything; it's about zeroing down on what is important in your life and will enhance your current skills.
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